Hello! I hope this post finds you well and full of hope for the *good* that is ahead for all of us despite the challenges that we are all facing in this time. This year Joshua and I have been stretched and challenged to keep holding on to hope for our family to someday grow despite five previous failed fertility treatment cycles. In January, we met with our physician, Dr. Bopp, and touched base with him about where we were at in our fertility process. As usual, he met our anxiety and disappointment with kindness and reassurance. He talked about potential options and the available medications that we had left to try. Months prior to this consultation, Josh and I had family friends who asked us our thoughts about the possibility of adopting embryos from couples who no longer needed them for their own family building. After doing some research, we found that this process can be somewhat lengthy and costly, involving legal fees and home studies. Initially, we really did not consider it as a feasible option for us but it came up during our consultation. Dr. Bopp shared that our fertility clinic actually has their own embryo adoption program that they manage within their practice which allows us to bypass a home study, legal and travel costs. However, the package for this treatment was still costly. Our appointment was encouraging and we left the office feeling like there was light in our darkness.
Following this appointment, we went home and prayed about our available options. WE knew that our bank account was feeling the weight of our previous tries and we didn’t want to make an unwise decision in moving forward prematurely. So we did some research on available grants and programs that help couples who have struggled with infertility. A google search led us to a non-profit called BabyQuest. This non-profit was started by a brilliant woman named Pamela Cohen-Hirsch, whose own daughter went through a fertility battle. She wanted to help other families to be able to move forward in their quest to build their families. Pamela and her team now award grants twice a year to couples & individuals who are struggling to cover the costs of their infertility treatments. Sometime later this year, they are anticipating the arrival of the 100th!! “Baby Quest Baby” born with the help of the funds awarded from their organization.
Joshua and I moved forward in February in the application process for BabyQuest‘s spring grant giveaway. We were holding on to the hope that we would receive financial help to continue to move forward. During this time, the pandemic began to ramp up in the United States and time seemed to slow way down. This was such a gift to Joshua and I. Being forced to slow down gave us room to breathe, room to process. In this time, we were able to connect with the fertility clinic about the process of choosing & reserving embryos. Our conversations led us to a beautiful set of embryos that we were able to reserve and sign over to our name. There is nothing like choosing your future children, marking them as our own. A moment I will never forget. Our world lit up with hope.
Months went by and we anxiously awaited the news of the recipients of the spring grant through BabyQuest. Daily we found ourselves surrendering in the waiting– We were held up and supported by the prayers of friends and family waiting with us, believing that God would make a way. This month we were ecstatic to learn that we were chosen, along with eight other couples, to receive grants through BabyQuest. Because of the generosity of Baby Quest and their mission to make family building possible, Joshua and I will be able to move forward in the next portion of our journey towards growing our family. Our grant will cover most of the cost of our procedures and medications which leaves us able to move forward very quickly. Our hearts keep pondering on our two beautiful embryos.
Before we can be ready for the transfer, I had to have a procedure called a Saline Infused Hysterography (SIS). This checks for any polyps or fibroids that invade into the uterine cavity. Unfortunately, when I went in today (May 20th) to have this done, Dr. Bopp found two potential polyps that are invading my uterine cavity. Dr. wants us to have a procedure to remove them prior to us being able to move forward with our embryo transfer. We can’t help but wonder if these polyps contributed to us not having success in our previous five IUI’s. However, the outlook seems fairly positive for moving forward after they are removed.
We want to encourage anyone out there who feels stuck or consumed by the weight of their infertility battle. Never could we have imagined the paths that God brought us down that led to this point. We’ve learned along the way that sometimes it takes getting acquainted and accepting the “new normals” of infertility. At first we had to accept the “new normal” that we may not have the ability to carry our own children. Then we became more comfortable with the different avenues available to us to build our family and these came at just the right times. We felt led to move forward down different paths at the best moments possible. We can confidently look back and see how it all worked out for our good, even when we did not understand it in the moment. So don’t let go. Let hope arise.
“There are far greater things ahead…” – C.S. Lewis
Within the next few months, we hope to move forward with our next fertility treatment. This would not be possible without the help of BabyQuest. Thank you Pamela & team for all the hard work you’ve put into seeing it through that families can grow with your financial gifts. During our next treatment, I’ll be blogging along the way and we encourage you to follow along. We would also be honored to have your prayers during this process. Although this is not our first “rodeo”, we are walking into new territory with this new type of treatment. We are choosing to walk in hope and confidence that there is GOOD ahead for us.
If you or someone you know is battling infertility and need help with paying for fertility procedures/meds, please take a moment and check out The BabyQuest Foundation and share with those in need. They are always taking new applications for grants and recipients are announced twice a year!
The link below will take you straight to their website and give you more information about their grant application process:
Curious about donating to the cause? Click the link below to find out ways that you can partner with BabyQuest in continuing their mission in helping families move forward in their fertility journeys.